by Maya (Guest writer) Growing up, my adoptive mom believed you should never pick up a crying baby. The thought process behind this—children, even infants, need to learn to comfort themselves. She taught it. I lived it. As a toddler I can still remember running and hiding if I fell...
by Pat Kuykendoll Women who have emotionally absent mothers often begin motherhood without a template of how to connect to and be emotionally present for their own children. These motherless daughters can feel mother loss once again as they approach parenthood. But in this instance the loss is different. It...
by Kristin Mitchener Read the first blogs in this series here: An Introduction to the Emotionally Absent Mother Class Blog Post Series A Journey Through the Emotionally Absent Mother Class, #1 Pre-EAM A Journey Through the Emotionally Absent Mother Class, First Class – Readings A Journey Through the Emotionally Absent...
by Kristin Mitchener I have fears about my mother, irrational maybe, but based on her past behavior nothing would surprise me anymore. Actually, I think she could still surprise me with what that woman is capable of doing and saying. What if she gets ahold of my writing and starts...
by Gina Ellis Not a morning person, I arose earlier than usual. In the bathroom half asleep, I looked at the sign on my bathroom wall, “Rise Up”, and prayed for the day. It was not a long prayer with fancy words, just a grateful heart with a simple request...
by Kristin Mitchener In response to me talking about my depression, a dear and wise friend told me, “Anger is depression turned inward. So I encourage you to explore that. What are you angry about?” Anger…I never considered myself an angry person. I’m a depressed person. I’ve been depressed since...
by Kristin Mitchener I have lived a life of sadness because I didn’t have a healthy, loving mother. But, what is a mother? Mothers are all around, and simply take the voice I have within. Running is my mother. Running pushes me, strengthens me, tells me motivating things like “You...
by Kristin Mitchener I started thinking about calling my mother two days ago. We haven’t spoken or seen each other in over 10 years. I called my younger sister instead, the wise sister who is able to set boundaries in order to keep our mother in her life. “Well why...
by Pat Kuykendoll We are physically present for many events both small and significant for the motherless daughter in our lives. We spend much time shuffling to doctor appointments or attending school functions, which is a necessary part of our role. But we have another, far deeper need, one we...
