“Don’t hold on to someone who’s leaving, otherwise you won’t meet the one who’s coming.” ~ Carl Jung
As we begin a new year, it’s hard not to feel some sadness, almost as if a death has occurred. One does not leave a year in the same way that she has come. We cannot help but notice that there have been changes, transitions, and in some ways, start to feel as though we may have lost a full year of our life. These thoughts are good, healing, and growth producing. We can look at ourselves and have a new awareness that this life is marked by change and will not last forever. In our letting go of old and embracing the new, we are honoring the path the Lord has placed us on so we can become the person He created us to be.
I believe in the process of reflecting on my year gone by. However, I refuse to “wallow” in the “what-ifs” “whys” and “what’s”. As I was reading some quotes by Carl Jung, the father of analytical psychology, I stumbled across this statement, “Don’t hold on to someone who’s leaving, otherwise you won’t meet the one who’s coming” and it made me think about my new year at hand. If I do not let go of the past and find hope in the future, I will miss all this New Year has to offer!
I am praying that I see what the Lord has in store for me through it ALL – the hard, the easy, the lessons learned and the lessons lost. I will embrace them with open hands this year. I will not hold people, memories, things, and events too close from this past year, for I might miss out on the whole experience and be blinded to the people, memories to be made, things, and events that are coming. I leave you with a poem that has served me well with the process of “Letting Go.”
She Let Go….
She let go.
She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of the fear.
She let go of the judgments.
She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.
She let go of the committee of indecision within her.
She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons.
Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice.
She didn’t read a book on how to let go.
She didn’t search the scriptures.
She just let go.
She let go of all of the memories that held her back.
She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.
She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go.
She didn’t journal about it.
She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer.
She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.
She didn’t check the weather report.
She just let go.
She didn’t analyze whether she should let go.
She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.
She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.
She didn’t call the prayer line.
She didn’t utter one word.
She just let go.
No one was around when it happened.
There was no applause or congratulations.
No one thanked her or praised her.
No one noticed a thing.
Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort.
There was no struggle.
It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.
It was what it was, and it is just that.
In the space of letting go, she let it all be.
A small smile came over her face.
A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore…
~ Rev. Safire Rose