God Sees Your Tears

By: Danielle Ilacqua (Guest Blogger) As Mother’s Day approaches and I see hundreds of commercials for flowers or cards, I just shrink back into a hole and wish for the passage of time quickly. The first year, which is the firsts of everything without your mom, is the toughest. That’s what “they”...

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Will the Pain Ever Go Away?

By: Mary Ellen Collins Recently I was asked by a new motherless daughter, “Will the pain ever go away?” That is such a very hard question to answer. It all just depends on so many factors. Each woman’s loss is unique. This woman was raised in a single parent home...

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What Do You Do When God Says, “No?”

By: Danielle Ilacqua (Guest Blogger) Let’s face it, none of us are going to get out of this life alive. Knowing that doesn’t make it any easier when we are confronted with death knocking at our front door.  What happens when we aren’t ready for this chapter in our lives...

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Happy Anniversary to Us

By: Mary Ellen Collins Last month was an anniversary of sorts. It marks the date the we succeeded. God chased me for many years, telling me what He wanted, and like so many in the old Testament, I ran, I hid, I ignored and quarreled with Him. I said “No.”...

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The Phone Call That Changed My Life

By: Julie Thompson There are certain moments in time that change our lives forever. For me, one of those moments was when I learned my mom had passed away. It was eight years ago, but I still remember it like it was yesterday. I remember waking up at 12:40 a.m....

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Freedom

By: Mary Ellen Collins F-R-E-E-D-O-M! I am so happy with myself. I am capable. I am competent. I did something yesterday that I had wanted to do for a long time. Woohoo! So why was I so afraid to get on an adult Trike? After all, it is nothing but...

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Soup Kettle Memories

By: Heather Wolper Today, I pulled my mother’s steel soup kettle from deep within my kitchen cabinets and prepared to make soup. As I chopped and diced, my mind filled with memories of my mother standing on the parquet floor of our kitchen stirring soup over our stove. Each week...

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The Curse of the Strong Woman

By: Christine Fishel I’m not a poet. And I know it. (See?) But this week I had to find a different way of getting out what was chewing up my insides. I’ve realized that, with rare exception, Motherless Daughters are extremely strong women. Life has forced us to become that,...

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The Limits of Our Grace

By: Christine Fishel The first breakthrough I had in my faith was about grace. I had been raised in an “earn it” culture. If I followed the rules of our church and our family, I was loved. If I stepped outside of that, I was not. Even questioning the rules...

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Welcome to The Club

By: Mary Ellen Collins When you lose a mother, you become a member of the Motherless Daughters Club, a club no one wants to belong to and yet here we are. On a journey, coping with our loss, striving to either create or maintain our identity. A life-long grief journey....

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