Testimonies are personal statements of women who have participated in the Motherless Daughters Ministry and how it has affected their life.
Caroline Lehman, 2016 Journey Retreat/Weekend participant
Thank you will never be enough. At the point where I needed this retreat the most … you were all there to scoop me up. I will forever be indebted to the MDM and the experience and all of you are engraved on my heart. I know I’ve made some strong connections and I plan to cherish those and never let go. I know now that I will never “get over” my loss, but I find peace now in knowing I am not alone and have a strong support system. Before this weekend… I always thought I was doing something “wrong” and was weak by remaining sad, angry, and hurt. But I have learned that those feelings WILL creep in and there’s nothing we can do about it. It’s about how we lift ourselves up and continue that makes us STRONG. Tears, sadness, and dark days happen. But smiles, happiness about sunny days are bound to follow.
Candis, 2016 Journey Retreat/Weekend participant
I have never seen a group bond so quickly in my life. Amazing. It was life-changing. As with the other two participants in my small group, we dropped so much hurt and sorrow and anger and mourning and relationship issues that we were carrying. So good for the soul, all that green, and all those trees and all those birds singing amazing songs and the beautifully manicured lawns and the statues — O! And um … the river … Appreciated the box of things in the bathroom. Added a homey touch in the institutional bathroom. Felt like a monk, which is exactly how I wanted to feel; totally focused. Even liked the fact there was no Wi-Fi in the room for that reason – away from the day-to-day world.
Uneek V. Lowe, 2016 Journey Retreat/Weekend participant
My personal deliverance from writing the screw tape letters. Can’t say enough about the screw tape exercise! This was an eye opener!!
Kimberly Hill Geiser, 2016 Journey Retreat/Weekend participant
I needed to be alone from the distractions and duties of world and day-to-day life to examine me and to get correction for me and to evaluate me as to why I had feeling of being not only different, but not equipped on levels the way others are. I needed to submit and give back to me for the first time in my life.
I knew I lost the [her] body at age 19 and never knew I never had a mother. I was the 0-6 group and this was ok. Thank You Lord that it was not me all along. I always knew this, but the confirmation was my most healing of the weekend. This was the biggest tool the devil has been able to use against me my entire life, but no more, he is truly defeated. I realized my brother also was under-mothered. I am still in WOW over this.
My small group was amazing on another level. We connected, strengthened encouraged and cried with each other’s breakthroughs, a little bit of heaven on earth.
I am truly changed. This has released me from the bondage I have been in for 571/2 years. I am moving forward in all areas of my life as I had always been told it was me by my Mother who was the problem, but I do not accept this anymore as I have the facts to reveal the why and I now have confirmation it was not me, but my Mother who could not give to me from an empty vault. I have stood for years on the promises of Jesus saying from the time I discovered I was to be a Mother, I would not as was done to me and I have not. I have claimed to be a generational curse breaker, strongholds and chains and standing firm for my children and family. I believed this, but now I understand how powerful this statement was and is now. God has prepared me for such a time as this through my journey to be used to lead others to healing.
This 12 week Motherless Daughters class has been wonderful and I hate to see it end. I have been on this journey with three wonderful women who understand me, accept me and allow me to be me without judging. It is a relief to be in a setting where I am understood. This course has allowed me to understand that what I am feeling is normal and ok. It has allowed me to look at myself and my Mom as individuals and in our mother/daughter relationship. It has allowed me to consider my past, present and future. I have to remember to give myself grace and remember to care of myself.
I still have a huge hole to heal, but I have hope. This hope has allowed the healing to start. This class has laid a firm foundation for me as I move forward in my journey to find my new normal and my new life.
This class has given me the courage to step out of my comfort zone and create boundaries. Mary Ellen, my prayer partner, and my classmates have been an invaluable support. I feel like I’m still grieving but it’s moved to the back seat.
I had already begun the process of letting Him into those broken places that mother had caused. This class helped me to keep walking in that direction. I’m learning to experience Him more tenderly and gently.
The content of the class was helpful, but the people in the class are what really touched my heart. I took comfort in knowing I was not alone in this journey. It was a blessing to have such a small class, to get to know other women who are in the midst of similar situations with their mother and to get their insights on my situation. And it has been such a gift to have such amazing facilitators who have opened their hearts to us and are helping to guide us through this journey with our mothers.
Motherless Daughters Ministry changed everything. I learned more about trauma, grief and healing. I learned how to fix things that went wrong in my grief journey.
If you would have told me even a couple years ago I would be sitting in a class called Motherless Daughters I would not believe you. I would not have ever considered myself to be a “Motherless Daughter.” I knew I had difficulties in my relationship with my mom through the years, but I would not have called myself “motherless.” From the outside looking in on my family growing up most people would be jealous to have a mom like mine. Some of my friends were. My mother was very involved in my life always. She took me everywhere, was PTA president, worked at the schools, was my girl scout leader, went to all my dance practices and recitals, was always buying me things, was at my house helping when both of my sons were born, and is a very involved grandmother even today. I always felt confused and like something was wrong with me because I felt like I wanted to get away from my mom, it felt like I wanted to crawl into a shell and hide around her, I did not REALLY feel loved by her, and I always felt I had this deep mom brokenness in my heart ever since I can remember. (more…)