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Within these blogs are stories that will connect you on all levels of mother loss. Regardless of how you became motherless, someone has written their story to share and connect with you. Dig into these blogs and find the words you need to hear. Let these words speak directly into your soul. Let these words connect with you. Let these words affirm that you are not alone in your mother loss journey.

What Causes A Mother To Be EMOTIONALLY Absent?


Maya | September 15, 2021

What causes a mother to not want to be around, be involved, or demonstrate love and interest in her child? . . . Read More

When Mother Doesn’t Reach Back


Pat Kuykendoll | May 12, 2021

Non Death Loss and the Emotionally Absent Mother  We are created with a natural desire to reach for another…and this . . . Read More

How do you celebrate being unwanted?


Maya (Guest writer) | April 4, 2021

April 22. The day started out as the happiest one of my life. I was being adopted by my current . . . Read More

Ending the Pattern pt 1 of 2


Maya (Guest writer) | March 21, 2021

On my healing journey, I continue to struggle with the knowing that I was just a “thing” to the mom who adopted me. A thing . . . Read More

Am I Enough Just the Way I Am?


Maya (Guest writer) | March 7, 2021

• Face To Face Church service ended and, on my way, out, there she was—my adoptive mom. It’s been five . . . Read More

Bridal Shower Boundaries


Kristin Mitchener | January 31, 2021

What happens when you see your mother for the first time in 8 years at your younger sister’s bridal shower: . . . Read More

Self Validation


Maya (Guest writer) | January 17, 2021

A child can take a piece of ripped, wrinkled construction paper, a broken crayon, scribble something not even decipherable and yet be ever so proud. Proud . . . Read More

Dear mom


January 3, 2021

Dear Mom by Maya (Guest Writer) I wish you could have been there for me and tucked me in just . . . Read More

How Do I Say Good-bye to the Mother I Never Had?


November 29, 2020

by Maya (Guest writer) I dreamed of having a mom I could always call. Always go home to. The sound . . . Read More

Navigating old waters in a new way - The Impact That The Emotionally Absent Mother Class Had On Me


November 15, 2020

by Maya (guest writer) Leading up to this class, my husband had just left me. I was drowning in the . . . Read More

Creating Connection with Your Children When Your Own Mother Was Emotionally Absent


November 8, 2020

by Pat Kuykendoll Women who have emotionally absent mothers often begin motherhood without a template of how to connect to . . . Read More

A Journey Through the Emotionally Absent Mother Class, Realizations


October 25, 2020

by Kristin Mitchener Read the first blogs in this series here: An Introduction to the Emotionally Absent Mother Class Blog . . . Read More

A Journey Through the Emotionally Absent Mother Class, #3 EAM Class Check-in


October 18, 2020

by Kristin Mitchener Read the first blogs in this series here: An Introduction to the Emotionally Absent Mother Class Blog . . . Read More

A Journey Through the Emotionally Absent Mother Class, First Class - Readings


October 11, 2020

by Kristin Mitchener Read the first blogs in this series here: An Introduction to the Emotionally Absent Mother Class Blog . . . Read More

A Journey Through the Emotionally Absent Mother Class, #1 Pre-EAM


October 4, 2020

by Kristin Mitchener Read the first blog in the series: An Introduction to the Emotionally Absent Mother Class Blog Post . . . Read More

An Introduction to the Emotionally Absent Mother Class Blog Post Series


September 27, 2020

My name is Kristin and I am the adult child of an emotionally absent mother. I want to share with . . . Read More

Healing the Heart in Wounded Attachment


September 20, 2020

by Patricia Kuykendoll We are born with eternity in our heart and mind. We enter a world of brokenness but . . . Read More

Voicing My Truth


September 13, 2020

by Kristin Mitchener I have fears about my mother, irrational maybe, but based on her past behavior nothing would surprise . . . Read More

Unveiled Faces


Gina Ellis | June 21, 2020

Not a morning person, I arose earlier than usual. In the bathroom half asleep, I looked at the sign on . . . Read More

Hi Anger. Nice to Meet You.


June 14, 2020

by Kristin Mitchener In response to me talking about my depression, a dear and wise friend told me, “Anger is . . . Read More

Inside the World of a Motherless Daughter Teen


Patricia Kuykendoll | May 24, 2020

A motherless daughter teen recently shared this excerpt from a classroom English writing assignment with me. She calls it Seeing . . . Read More

Finding My Own Loving Mother Inside


May 17, 2020

by Kristin Mitchener I have lived a life of sadness because I didn’t have a healthy, loving mother. But, what . . . Read More

To Call or Not to Call


May 3, 2020

by Kristin Mitchener I started thinking about calling my mother two days ago. We haven’t spoken or seen each other . . . Read More

The Power of Presence


April 12, 2020

by Pat Kuykendoll We are physically present for many events both small and significant for the motherless daughter in our . . . Read More

The Voice of Forgiveness


February 9, 2020

by Kristin Mitchener I recently listened to a guided meditation. One meditative point sticks with me. Whatever you feel, if . . . Read More

What The Emotionally Absent Mother Class Has Done for Me


January 12, 2020

by JL When I first came to this class, I thought maybe I would just learn a few things. I . . . Read More

Struggle Forward


Kristin Mitchener | November 17, 2019

Struggle: this is a word I am familiar with. Sometimes too familiar. Sometimes way too familiar. Hourly I find myself . . . Read More

Creating a Nurturing Voice Within


September 29, 2019

by Kristin Mitchener In reading Beverly Engel’s Healing Your Emotional Self, I have remembered so many specific events from my . . . Read More

Searching for Joy Without My Mother


Amanda Loduca (Guest Blogger) | November 1, 2017

It seems to me that most of my problems are linked to my mother’s absence. A few examples: My toddler . . . Read More

Everything Within Me Wants To Escape


January 25, 2017

By: Christine Fishel Mom and Dad are in their new apartment at the assisted living facility. More than an apartment, . . . Read More